I can’t believe it’s been 6 months since my last blog post! This break from blogging wasn’t exactly planned out you see, but it has definitely been just what my heart needed!
I’ve received so many questions asking why I stopped blogging over the last few months. I’ve shared with all my close family and friends, but today I thought I’d open up and share with you my why behind it all and what I’ve learning during this time.
While most of you assumed it must have been all the transition that were going on in my life. Planning a quick wedding, getting married (with a child that involves a lot of transitions!), buying a house, moving to a new town, etc. But really that wasn’t it. I can’t tell you how supportive my wonderful husband has been. I literally think he would bend over backwards for me to still do blogging full time if that’s what I said I wanted to do. Nope, that wasn’t it. Very simply put, my heart needed a break.
I think I knew I needed a break for a little while, but I was scared to ‘give up’ what I had been working so hard on. (Sound familiar? Why do we do this to ourselves! Sheesh!) Being someone whose struggled with people pleasing, perfection, and saying yes to well…just about everything my whole life, being on social media 24/7 can take it’s toll if your heart’s not properly guarded. I found myself constantly putting pressure on myself to ‘succeed’ (as if it all depended on me anyways), saying yes to every opportunity, leaving little to no room to just breath and be present with those around me. I was comparing myself with others, wanting my life to look ‘perfect’ like theirs and getting frustrated or disappointed when things didn’t go according to my plan. I was missing out on a lot of life, because I was worried about trying to make everything look ‘pretty’ and ‘inspiring’. Truth be told, I began to take it all into my own hands instead of fully handing it over to God and trusting Him every bit of the way. No, this break was not expected, planned out or something I did on my own. It was God being the faithful, good, gracious God that he is using an incident to open my eyes and lead me back to where I needed to be. It was then that I decided I needed a break.
I knew this was exactly what I needed to do, but it was still hard letting go. I felt so insecure not knowing what I was going to do or what was going to happen. I was easy (is easy) for my heart to feel discouraged or left behind. Feeling like everyone else was zooming ahead of me. Feeling like I was failing. But those were all lies. Truth is I was exactly where God wanted me, and I was far from failing! One thing I’ve learned in life is there is a season for everything (Ecc 3:1-8). A season to plant, a season to uproot, a season to be silent, a season to speak up, a season to be a #bosslady and a season to sit out. I say all of this, because I want to share just how good and faithful God is in every season. In this season it’s been easy to question why I’m sitting out and not be bummed about it, but that’s where I’ve had to trust God and remember it’s for my best. And it really has been…in this season God has been teaching me, growing me more than I would have ever imagined or been able to do on my own. During a time that I thought would be me taking steps backwards, I was finally taking steps FORWARD again instead.
So what have you been doing the last 6 months? Great question! First, I’ve been spending a lot of intentional time with my family and friends, which has been the biggest blessing! I took the summer off to just be with Olive and Danny. I got our house all settled and best of all, I got to take time to pray, ask God for direction in my life and then wait for it…I took time to be still and listen!! I mean monumental, right?!? Let’s be honest, how often to do we pray about something, ask God for an answer, but then never make time to sit and wait for him to answer? (Guilty!) We’re too busy ‘hustling’ that we often times miss our answers.
What have you learned in this time? One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in this season is the importance of just saying “no” and creating space in your life to be still and connect. Lately, I’ve been reading Shauna Niequest’s Present Over Perfect book and there’s this one quote that really hit home for me! It says, “But you can’t have yes without no. Another way to say it: if you’re not careful with your yeses, you start to say no to some very important things without even realizing it. In my rampant yes-yes-yes-ing, I said no, without intending to, to rest, to peace, to groundedness, to listening, to deep and slow connection, built over years instead of moments.” And a good friend of mine, Ruth Ann Bacon said, “I’ve been able to see more of the abundant life that Jesus wants us to have in the spaces that have been opened as a result of my saying no.” I mean SO good, right?!?
I’ve also learned it’s okay to be creative and to want things to be pretty and inspiring. Those are gifts that God gives us that we should use. It’s just all about having the right perspecitve and balance to go along with it. Recognizing that the moments are always more important than the things. I’m so thankful that God graciously opened my eyes, so I can regain that perspective, balance and be able to better serve those around me! It’s been worth every minute of this break!
What does life look like going forward? So after much, much prayer, I decided to make a career change a couple of months ago. I went back to school and got my real estate license!! Guys, I couldn’t be more excited about this! Real estate is something I have always been interested in, and I can’t wait to share with you in one of my next posts how God opened up the perfect opportunity for me to put my love for design and my love for serving people to good use! What about blogging? I’m going to start blogging again, this time around it will be just as a hobby though! What about Shop Accessory Jane? Shop Accessory Jane is still in business!!! 4 years ago I started Shop Accessory Jane with my mom. She will now be taking over full time while I run my real estate business. We’ve spent the last few months brain storming ideas for what’s in store for Shop AJ, and I can confidently say good things, big things are coming y’all!!
If you guys made it this far in my post, thank you! Thank you for listening and thank you for caring! I thought I’d end this post with a few pictures to give you guys a quick recap of life these past 6 months. ALSO, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this post! Are you in a similar season or have you been in a similar season? Share some of the lessons YOU have learned!
With much love, Liz